Better sex starts with understanding how our bodies are stimulated. The female orgasm remains mysterious for many, and these facts help clear up some common myths. For those under 19, it may be an entirely new experience. Not every orgasm is explosive or consistent—here are some popular facts.

As men age, they gain more control over their orgasms, which become more a physical reaction during both wakefulness and sleep. In women, orgasms remain largely psychological, with the likelihood of sleep-related orgasms increasing after their peak around age 40. The female orgasm is intriguing, enjoyable, and can even improve with age.

Studies show that 59% of women have faked an orgasm at some point, with 48% in a 2006 London survey. More women report reaching orgasm during oral sex than vaginal intercourse; some never climax during anal intercourse while others experience multiple orgasms. Overall, the timing and predictability of female orgasms vary greatly.

The average female orgasm lasts about 18-20 seconds, similar to the 5-22 seconds reported for males in some cases. However, the peak of an orgasm usually lasts less than a second, influenced by factors such as whether it occurs during masturbation or intercourse. Female orgasms can depend on factors like condom use, while male orgasms are affected by age, gender, and sexual orientation. Several aspects—from the type of sex to partner dynamics—impact climax.

If reaching orgasm is challenging, a dietary change might help. Learning what feels right without pressure from a partner can open new pathways to pleasure. For more tips on exploring female orgasms, check out our guide.

Some believe orgasms should exclusively result from sex rather than masturbation, and that penetration-induced orgasms are superior. Yet, many find that intentional clitoral stimulation leads to a better orgasm. Only 5% of women say they always climax during penetrative sex, and while men nearly always finish, women experience climax in different ways. About 70% of heterosexuals claim clitoral stimulation isn’t necessary, and 60% say sex toys make it easier to reach orgasm.

Personally, I love exploring different ways to orgasm. As an escort, I enjoy multiple daily climaxes and couldn’t imagine a day without them. Experimentation keeps the experience fun, and trying new methods with others can be incredibly fulfilling.